Friday, June 4, 2010

Mum's The Word

Sometimes I wish I wasn't "The Mum". I love my kids dearly and I love being their Mum but when it comes to making decisions or disciplining, I wish someone else could do it for me. I know, I know. It's all a part of my job but I feel like I really suck at it.

Usually if a situation occurs that requires a decision to be made or discipline to be given, my husband and I sit down and talk about the best way to handle it. We make the best team and I admire him for his awesome advice and intelligence - basically he just knows what to do.

This time around, my husband was away for work*. A little background information before I go on: My twins hang out with the same people at school (a very lovely bunch of friends, I must admit). My daughter's boyfriend is in their circle of friends and a very good friend of my son's.

My son had four of his friends over to 'hang out'. They ended up staying until quite late so my son asked if they could all sleepover. I said an enthusiastic "Sure!" without thinking. One of the boys is of course, my daughter's boyfriend.

Hmmm. My daughter had been out all day which is probably why it didn't click. I have always made it clear that there will be no boyfriend/girlfriend sleepovers until they are over 18. Was I to let the boyfriend sleep over (with constant, over-monitoring), say no to the boyfriend sleeping over or say no to all of the boys staying the night? Aargh...


I had four children already asleep so taking the boys home myself was not an option. I felt rude asking the boys to ask their parents to come and get them AFTER they said they were sleeping over.

I ended up sending the boyfriend home. *cringe*

It was the only decision that I could think of after a long and exhausting day. And now that I think of it, even though I had my daughter, son and the boyfriend hating on me; I feel like I made the right decision.

Case closed.

*When he is away from work, we only get to talk to each other once every three days, for about 1/2 an hour. No time for a quick call to ask for advice.


  1. That was a rough situation. As parents we do the best we can with what's in front of us. You did great.

  2. Tough decision to make although I think I would have made the same one. Either that or sleep outside their rooms in a chair all night :p. I've just found you via flogyoblog friday and think your blog is great :)